Today is my mother’s wedding. She and bab’Khotso are doing a wedding that is basically “Zulu meets Sotho.” I asked if they’d have a white wedding. Bab’Khotso said he’s not white. I said, “Hawu baba… just for the vibes.” He laughed and said, “I’m marrying the love of my life… there is nothing that is for the vibes about that. And I’m not going to practice things that I don’t understand while committing to her. I mean, I don’t even understand...
I’m at home this weekend. This is the weekend that the Mohales will be paying my lobola for me. Now that my dad is well again, stronger and able to see this through, we can finally do this. Wandisa can pretty much give birth any time. She won’t be coming this side for the Gauteng celebrations because she can no longer travel, but she will be present for the celebrations that will be happening at the royal house. Rena and...
I just got into my office this morning. I’m still living in a hotel. I miss my husband… a lot. I’m actually ready to just go back to him and have him love me again. I set up my office so that I could get the day started. I miss those kids everyday… and I’m beginning to accept that they are never coming back. I must just phone their schools and have their admissions terminated. There’s a knock on my door. I look...
Yoh, the work here at Keith’s office! It’s a lot! And with him still scouting a PA, I’m also that too. We had to phone mzala to come stay with us for a while so she could help us with Risuna. My mom said she’d come up, but she still has work. Mzala needs the money. Now my mom lives with Mzala’s kids while mzala is here helping us with Risuna. We work longer hours and the board meeting preps...
My family and I have just come back from the Maldives. We actually had so much fun there. It was a good break for Meme and a well-needed holiday for Thabang. We actually saw him laugh and let loose again. Now we are all back in the kingdom and we are legitimately looking forward to some rest before kids go back to school and I go back to work. “Guys, all bags in the laundry please. Sisi will help us by...
My mom and my step-father bought us a house. I’m so excited it’s not even funny. Senzi is equally excited! We are living with Akwande for a while. Mam’Fifi is flying in and out of the kingdom everyday to help the queen set up a new school. Seeing that everyone is away and busy on this project, we asked Ntuthuko and Tamia to help us move in. The movers are helping us move the furniture in. We have helpers packing our...
My dad just had his surgery. We flew him and Mam’Celia to Tholoana Kingdom and he had the surgery here. They are staying with us, much to Rena’s and Moloko’s excitement. I’m not sure if they are enjoying having grandparents or if Mam’Celia is humouring them as hard as she humours us. Khotso insists that Celia is a walking comedy show. I think I understand her nyana… she reminds me of someone I was locked up with. She gives me her...
“Ngiyabonga baby. Thank you so much for today”, I tell him.It’s 10pm. The kids are bathed, fed and are in bed. Homework is checked and whatever needs signing has been signed. I had a bad day today. A terrible day at that. I went to the office that my father and I opened here in Tholoana Kingdom. A group of men were relentlessly cat-calling me today… two even went to the extent of slapping my ass. I called HR to deal with...
I asked Thabang to come with me today. We have come to talk to Mahali. I feel it is necessary, especially because I don’t know what kind of conversations about me have taken place between Mahali and Mmakabelo. Then I remembered that me being with Thabang is her biggest trigger. So I asked Thabang’s mother to come with us. She is a specialised customary lawyer and while we are her family, I’m also trusting her to be fair. That’s what...
I just dropped Risuna off at crèche. He was asking me very weird questions today. I didn’t realise that us moving to a new environment had affected him this way. He asked me why he has to go to a new school. I told him it’s because we moved and his old school is now very far for us. He asked me if we’d be moving again. I said no, but if we did, would it be an issue? He...
